The Love Koan
Nan-in, a Japanese master, received a university student who came to inquire about love. They chatted a while.Nan-in then served tea.He poured his visitor’s cup full, then kept pouring.The student watched the overflow until he could no longer restrain himself.“It is over full. No more will go in,” he exclaimed! “Like this cup,” Nan-in said, “you are full of your own judgments, betrayals, fears, pain, and sorrow.How can I show you love until you empty your first cup?” I read this story about 14 years ago…the professor was actually teaching Zen,...
Read MoreDiscovering My Inner Dork
I met a self proclaimed dork recently. This is a guy that whose smile and laugh comes so easy, wit sharp but not cutting, part nerd, part clown, all heart, loves to blow the covers off straws and delights in playful little tricks to instigate a laugh. But I didn’t laugh right away when he said I was a dork, too—after all, “Only a dork can tell if you are one too”. “I am not” I doth protested loudly, and behold! An involuntary snort from my snout, lead to fit of laughing. Oh no! Could it really be true? Geez, it isn’t easy being a dork. I went to...
Read MoreWould You Date this Guy???
A few weeks ago, I came upon the most unbelievable dating profile on Chemistry (an offshoot of Match). As one of the first people to join the match site a few years ago, they made me a paid lifetime member. Every now and then I poke my head in. I couldn’t believe they paired me up with this 61 year old guy from New York—just check out his introductory paragraph: “Just did 30 years getting off for good behavior. Looking to find a lady who’s not insane. Don’t need anybody new to dig into my pockets. Take me for who I am not what I can buy you. You can ask me for...
Read MoreI "Intend" To Passion
Another sleepless night at the Ponderosa last week lead me to watch a rather enlightening lecture with Dr Wayne Dyer. He talked about the power of “intention”, and if we are aware of what we intend, we can attract more of what we need and want in our life. It all sounds so simplistic at first blush, just another version of “The Secret”, or “Power of Positive Thinking” get-you-motivated-and-happy-for-the-moment kind of stuff. But…This time, somehow his words about “Intending” must have burned a new circuit in my brain. All of a sudden, I...
Read MoreBirthday Sex:
Oh, how I am longing for ‘Birthday Sex’…you know, the kind where your lover gives you especially what you like, without any restraints on time. There is no ‘score-keeping’. Damn! You can even be a little selfish and luxuriate in the pleasure. They know it’s your special day, so attention to all the little details like music, flowers, oils, clean sheets, long, loooooong kisses, caresses, and the touch that says “Don’t worry baby, I love what I am doing and will do it for as long as you want or like it”…Sigh. I so love that. You know...
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