Too Tired for Sex
Dear Dr. Melanie, My husband and I have been married for 2 years and we’ve been together 7 years. I’ve noticed since our last child that between all the work I do and caring for the kids, that I never wanna have sex with my husband. I still love him and find him attractive but I’m just always tired and just don’t find sex appealing. I’m never in the mood. I feel bad for him, but working 2-3 jobs a day with no break from our 4 children, I just don’t want anything to do with it. Is there something wrong with me? Dear Tired – I’m exhausted from reading your...
Read MoreWhen the Flame Fizzles
Dear Dr. Melanie, My fiance and I have been together for almost 18 months now. When we first got together the sex was often and amazing. It lasted a very long time, and I usually had multiple orgasms. Lately I am lucky if we have sex 3 times a month, and when we do it is very short and I rarely orgasm even once. He says that he is still very attracted to me and wants me, but I feel like he doesn’t anymore. I feel like he may be wanting to leave and just doesn’t want to hurt me and my 2 children that have grown to love him. I know I am probably just reading too much into this, but...
Read MoreLost That Lovin’ Feeling
Dear Dr. Melanie, I am a Fantasia Rep and I have a customer who has tried even our best toys for stimulation and says it does nothing for her. She has been through a surgery several years ago and somehow, for what reason I can’t come up with, during the surgery the tip of her clitoris was snipped and now she has no feeling through her clitoris at all. I have tried to help her but she says that she still has no feelings there. and sex is just sex to her no orgasm or feelings of pleasure at all. Help! I don’t know what to do for her. Is there something she can try to get these...
Read MoreWhy Are Sweaty Men Sexy?
I’m wearing my wife hat today. Not so long ago a friend posted the question of ‘what sexy thing can a man do for you’. My answer of ‘laundry’ won the most votes. The truth is manual labor in any form is a huge turn on for me. But I have learned that it’s not the fruits of the labor that get it done, it’s the labor itself. This weekend my lovely husband started to tackle a very large yard project. The first day he worked this project I was out all day. When I came home, he had made huge progress toward completion. And although I was very pleased with...
Read MoreSpit or Swallow
Dear Dr. Melanie, A few of my customers have asked me how to push beyond their mental boundaries so they can swallow their partner’s ejaculation. I haven’t been able to help them because I too, have issues with it. Are there any mental exercises or re-training of thoughts to try and overcome this? Thank you! – Helpful Fantasia Rep Dear Helpful – The first step is to explore why the boundary exists. Were you pressured or forced to swallow at some point, so that doing it now brings back that bad memory? Did you get the message that body fluids are gross? Or that only “bad...
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