Hello Me, Happy Valentines Day

Just one Valentine Day ago, I was walking through the card aisle at the supermarket and a slight wave of envy hit me as I watched a couple women picking out cards in the “Romantic for Him” area. The year was slim pickins for me in the romance department, Valentines’ Day just made it feel worse. Any of you experiencing the joys and never-ending wonders of the online dating merry-go-round may certainly relate.
At the same time, it made me also wonder about the millions of single people out there this holiday so obviously ignores, and how it may do the very opposite of what it was meant to be. Hmm. My little imaginary parent version of myself then came out of my brain, sat on my right shoulder, and put their little imaginary arm around my shoulder and said “Be my Valentine?”
Ok. I might have inhaled a little while I was in college, and I once read a book on human psychology. I can’t explain it, but I realized that the feeling of love and being “in love” really starts and come with and from yourself. It isn’t really when someone is feeling it towards you. You actually create that feeling when you feel it about or towards someone else, and yes—even with yourself.


I tested that new theory immediately—I flirted and smiled unabashedly with my favorite elder grocery packer, and I got the most heart warming smile and pink glow back. I picked up a cup of coffee from the 711, smiled broadly at this handsome beefcake, and the gift was returned. When I got home, I wrote an email to a friend and told them how much I appreciated them in my life. I think I’m on to something that I probably already knew, but consciously giving means you get, and if it isn’t from another, it is from yourself.

So, heck! Why not pull out the stops this Valentines Day and show your love by allowing yourself a little extra gift of luxury or expression?
Give it to you from the best person in your life…You! 

That perfect Red rose you see is for you.

Savor a truffle, for you.

Order a Chocolate Martini.

Buy Red Lipstick.

Get a pedicure and paint your toes Red.

Or buy a new red sex toy.
One of my favorites?  “The Total Package Deluxe Vibrator

Smile shamelessly. and, Happy Valentines Day to all us Me’s!


Miss Sensuale’