Hello Me! Be My Valentine?

Just one Valentine Day ago, I was walking through the card aisle at the supermarket. A slight wave of envy hit me as I watched a couple of guys picking out cards in the “Sweetheart” area.

The year for me was slim pickins in the romance department, Valentines Day just made it feel worse. Any of you experiencing the joys and never-ending wonders of the online dating merry-go-round may certainly relate.

At the same time, it made me also wonder about the millions of single people out there this holiday so obviously ignores, and how it may do the very opposite of what it was meant to be.

Hmm.

My little imaginary parent came out of my brain, sat on my right shoulder, and put their little imaginary arm around my shoulder and said “Be my Valentine?”

Ok, so I might have inhaled a little while I was in college, and I once read a book on human psychology. I can’t explain it, but I realized that the feeling of love and being “in love” really starts and come with and from yourself. It isn’t really when someone is feeling it towards you. You actually create that feeling when you feel it about or towards someone else, and yes—even with yourself.

Wow.

I tested the theory immediately.
I flirted and smiled unabashedly with my favorite elder grocery packer, and I got the most heart warming smile and pink glow back.

I picked up a cup of coffee from the 711, smiled broadly at this handsome beefcake, and the gift was returned.

When I got home, I wrote an email to a friend and told them how much I appreciated them in my life.

You know, I think this is something that I probably already knew, but consciously giving means you get, and if it isn’t from another, it is from yourself. So, heck! Why not pull out the stops this Valentines Day and show your love by allowing yourself a little extra gift of luxury or expression? Give it to you from the best person in your life…You!

That perfect red rose you see, is for you.

Savor a truffle, for you.

Order a Chocolate Martini.

Buy red lipstick.

Get a pedicure and paint your toes Red.

Love shamelessly! And a most happy Valentines Day to all us Me’s!

Miss Sensuale’

P.S. Buy a new red sex toy. Check out one of my favorites! The Total Package Deluxe Vibrator

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Anonymous February 20, 2010

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Once upon a time, in 1984, a woman named Rina Valan was frustrated about the limits placed on women in the business world and in their personal relationships. Back then, you literally had one choice: raise a family or have a career. In addition, if women complained of lack of pleasure with a partner, it was just assumed she was ‘frigid.’ Those choices were just not acceptable to Rina, and so her mission because clear to be that champion for the financial and personal well-being of women and their partners. With a $10,000 loan from her mother and drawing out all her cash advances on credit cards, in August 1984 Rina started Fantasia Home Parties in a small dusty warehouse in Elizabeth, NJ. She loved her 3 year old daughter so much that she could not bear to leave her with a sitter, so she took her to work every day. In the evenings would train new consultants so they could sell at home parties and be able to support their families AND be there to take care of them too. Today, Rina and her daughter, Emily, still work side by side. So 30 years later, Fantasia Home Parties stands as the pioneer and leader in romance home parties. As one of the founding member of CAHPA (Certified Adult Home Party Association), Fantasia continues to forge the trail and we make it possible for women to be equals in matters of the heart, personal pleasure, or providing income for themselves and family. Some of us do it in pink high heels or sneakers, some are single or married, some are single moms, or some of us are even taking care of own moms. With over 33 years of executive experience in the Home Party and Direct Selling business, her personal attention and real life experience is the backbone of our team. It is not unusual that she shares her working experience daily by coaching and with personal support with both new and experienced consultants.

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Rina Valan, President and Founder of Fantasia Home Parties