The Skinny on Squirting
Dear Dr. Melanie, I’ve heard a couple of women talk about “squirting”. They say it’s a different way to have an orgasm, like having many at one time. I am not familiar with this term and wondered if you could explain this to me. Thanks, Squirtless Dear Squirtless, They are referring to female ejaculation and G spot orgasm. Some women enjoy deep stimulation of tissue between the vagina and urethra. The sexology and medical communities are still debating whether this is a set of paraurethral glands that fill with prostatic-like fluid (like male semen, without...
Read MoreToo Quick Quickies
Dear Dr. Melanie, My husband doesn’t last very long in bed and it bothers him as well as myself. I enjoy sex with him but am not fully satisfied. He won’t talk to a doctor about it because he is embarrassed. Is there anything we can do to prolong his ejaculation without seeking medical help? -Wanting More Dear Wanting More, How long is “very long”? 3 minutes? 20 minutes? 60 minutes? I can’t tell whether his issue is premature ejaculation (PE) or that he comes just a bit faster than you. Or perhaps he loses his erection quickly without ejaculating, which...
Read MoreHe’s Not Interested
Dear Dr. Melanie, This is my second marriage and my husband and I have been married since September of 2009. We don’t make love very much. We make love once every other month. I am 41 and he is 38. Most of the fighting we do is over sex. I am the one that wants its and he doesn’t. He doesn’t even like to kiss. I have tried to talk with him, and he either says I know we need to improve on things or he tells me its gets old talking about it and its always the same thing. I try to express to him that its not just about the sex its everything kiss, hand holding, cuddling. He...
Read MoreTime to Come
Dear Dr. Melanie, I’m so upset with myself. My boyfriend tries so hard to please me with oral sex until I have an orgasm, but it takes me hours if it happens at all, and it frustrates us. I feel so bad when it doesn’t take place. He seems to think it’s something he’s doing or not doing. Please help us.-Frustrated Dear Frustrated, If it’s taking you “hours” to cum, consider whose timetable you’re using. On average, women take about 20 minutes to climax from oral sex, which means that some take much longer, and some take much less time....
Read MoreUnwelcome Wife
Dear Dr. Melanie, I am married for 2 years and my wife is not into sex at all. It annoys me and dont know what to do. We are both are 27. I come to her every night but she pushes me back. We have sex once a month. Can you help me out on what to do? I want to have sex at least 3 to 4 times a week. She doesn’t like oral sex – she thinks it’s disgusting. She doesn’t do any other positions besides missionary.–Frustrated Dear Frustrated, I understand your frustration, since most people in their mid-twenties have a fairly high sex drive; however, a lot of issues may be at play...
Read MoreUTI Help
Dear Dr. Melanie, Will over-the-counter products cure UTI’s? –Tired of Cranberry Juice Dear Tired, If you think you have a urinary tract infection, your best bet is to visit your healthcare provider for a urine test. It’s easy – you pee into a clean up, and the nurse will dip a test stick into it. The strip will turn colors depending on the diagnosis. Your provider will then be able to tell whether it’s a UTI or cystitis, which is more of an irritation. You’ll get antibiotics for the UTI, and you’ll be told to drink lots of water for mild cystitis. Your provider may also...
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