Blame, Blame, Fo Fame, Banana Fana….

I wanted to blow up my computer today. Everything just kept going wrong.
Do you ever feel like that?
It was so slow to load files, my internet kept dropping, and the printer wouldn’t work. I was trying to make a small movie clip to endorse a new product, and then I couldn’t find the camera, or the cord, and when I finally did…then the chatter from staff about me distracted me. Can’t they see I’m busy???
And the resident geek didn’t response fast enough to my assorted issues…did I mention I wanted to blow everything up?

I was stuck in the “Blame Game.”

Things were clearly not my fault for things that did not get done. “Others” made me fall behind or tainted my creativity, or were not there at my beck and call to “fix” my problems. I blamed everyone. So there!

Reality check: duh.

The computer or the assorted ears that heard my whines did not get my business done for me. It’s all there still waiting to be done. I played the Blame Game as a way of consoling myself for not taking responsibility for any of it. I have no one to blame but myself for wasting my energy and expecting others to part the water for me in my throes of frustration.

What about you? Do you find yourself stuck in the blame game for your business?
Sure, it’s easy to blame that it’s “slow” or you just don’t have the time, the kids, the mate, the other job, the home party company, lack of resources, lack of motivation, lack of support, lack of leads…heck, lack of SOME thing! It is just another stanza of the blame game.
Unfortunately, it is a game that you can play, but you never win.

It ain’t others or other things.
You’re the boss! Take control. Take action.
Take your bull by your own capable, creative horns and yell “Charge!!!”

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Once upon a time, in 1984, a woman named Rina Valan was frustrated about the limits placed on women in the business world and in their personal relationships. Back then, you literally had one choice: raise a family or have a career. In addition, if women complained of lack of pleasure with a partner, it was just assumed she was ‘frigid.’ Those choices were just not acceptable to Rina, and so her mission because clear to be that champion for the financial and personal well-being of women and their partners. With a $10,000 loan from her mother and drawing out all her cash advances on credit cards, in August 1984 Rina started Fantasia Home Parties in a small dusty warehouse in Elizabeth, NJ. She loved her 3 year old daughter so much that she could not bear to leave her with a sitter, so she took her to work every day. In the evenings would train new consultants so they could sell at home parties and be able to support their families AND be there to take care of them too. Today, Rina and her daughter, Emily, still work side by side. So 30 years later, Fantasia Home Parties stands as the pioneer and leader in romance home parties. As one of the founding member of CAHPA (Certified Adult Home Party Association), Fantasia continues to forge the trail and we make it possible for women to be equals in matters of the heart, personal pleasure, or providing income for themselves and family. Some of us do it in pink high heels or sneakers, some are single or married, some are single moms, or some of us are even taking care of own moms. With over 33 years of executive experience in the Home Party and Direct Selling business, her personal attention and real life experience is the backbone of our team. It is not unusual that she shares her working experience daily by coaching and with personal support with both new and experienced consultants.

Blame, Blame, Fo Fame, Banana Fana….

Rina Valan, President and Founder of Fantasia Home Parties